Life never stops teaching us lessons. Everyone knows this. Life constantly throws curveballs our way to keep us on our toes and teach us valuable things. Usually, things that we don’t want to face or learn. I’ve learned throughout the years it is best to just suck it up and accept the lesson rather than trying to continue to avoid it. For life will continue to present the lesson to you repeatedly until you finally understand and accept it.
Personally, I have struggled to grasp the age old lesson of learning to accept and let go of what I can’t change. I am an emotional being, but I am also a very logical person. I like to understand things in their entirety. I like to understand the why, the rhyme and reason for things happening. I find peace in understanding. So, when I am faced with situations that I can’t have an understanding in, my mind does not react well. It goes into my survival mode of trying to force or create and understanding to satisfy my incessant need to have logical reasoning. I lived this way for years. If I couldn’t understand why something was happening, if I couldn’t change what was happening or know the reason for it, I simply could not accept it in my mind.
As you can imagine, this is an extremely unhealthy way of living. So much of this world is beyond our own control. People are extremely fickle. They change like the wind, usually without giving anyone an explanation as to why. It’s hard and it can be painful when people you care about decide to switch up and not provide a rational reason why. You’re left wondering, and usually that wondering leads to you pointing the finger of blame at yourself. Sometimes, we even fight and try to change unfair situations. We try to alter the outcome of things we feel we cannot accept or understand. Maybe because we feel this will help us but all we are really doing is hurting ourselves more.
When we spend our time festering over things beyond our control, we aren’t doing ourselves any favors. We’re simply wasting more of our own precious energy on a situation or person that doesn’t even care enough to present us with a reason or explanation for a behavior that hurts us. By the time most people decide to take action on something, they’ve already thought it over for some time, making it difficult to waver them on their decision. And why should we even try to? If someone wants to make a change that negatively affects us, we have to allow them to. We have to let them go. Let them deal with their own consequences and karma. Our focus needs to be on ourselves and furthering our own lives. Not furthering connections with people who want to end them. Yes, it is much easier said than done, but choosing to let go and accept what and who you cannot change will reward you with so much more peace. Continuing to fight it and attempting to “solve” it, will merely rob you of your own inner peace and sanity. Try all you might, but you can only control what is within your realm. Don’t waste another second on trying to understand or change people you can’t . If they won’t give you the decency of understanding, at least give yourself the peace of accepting it and letting it go. Set yourself free of the things you cannot change.
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