The Friends theme song was certainly right; no one told us life was gonna be this way. No one told us we’d have to make so many life-altering decisions. No one told us we’d feel the weight of those decisions so greatly. No one told us how greatly every choice we make would affect our finances, careers, relationships, and most importantly our mental health. Your twenties are not a walk in the park. They’re not all rainbows and sunshine and traveling to post the best Instagram pictures. They are so much more in depth than that.
Yes, your twenties can be the most fun decade of your life. Yes, they can be your last chance to be young and wild and free of the extra responsibilities most people take on in their thirties. But it’s not always breezy. We make so many decisions in our twenties. Decisions that set up our future. Decisions that begin our career path. That begin long term relationships. That decide where we are going to be geographically. This decade is full of choices that can go either way. They can be beneficial or detrimental to our well beings and our success in life. This can be very daunting at times. Deciding on a career path. Choosing to go to college/ grad school or not. Deciding to move in together. Choosing to take steps outside of our comfort zone. It’s a lot to take in and manage. And it is okay to feel overwhelmed, confused, or even lost at times.
I can’t tell you how to ensure you’ll always make the right decision because you won’t. You’ll make mistakes. You will screw up. You will have some regrets. You will find yourself lost on your own journey. But I can tell you that this is okay. In fact, it is normal. These mistakes, screw ups, and regrets need to happen. You need to learn what’s wrong for you in order to find out what is right for you. You need to get lost in order to find yourself. You need to learn what you don’t want, to figure out what you do want. In life, careers, relationships, etc.
Feeling lost doesn’t equate to failure. You have not failed just because you haven’t found your path yet. As long as you’re trying to find your way, you’re doing what you need to be. You’re doing all you can and that is more than enough. We spend so much time comparing ourselves to the highlights we see of others on social media. To their promotions, new homes, engagements, births, etc. We’re so quick to forget that it’s all an illusion. No one’s life, especially their twenties, is a constant state of bliss and success. Everyone experiences failure and confusion. Everyone makes a wrong turn now and then. And we’re not wrong to do so.
Feeling lost in your twenties is an age-old tale. This is the time to get lost. To go down the wrong path, to lose the relationships, to quit the jobs. This is the time to take these failures and turn them into your greatest strengths. Use them to guide you away from what didn’t work and towards what will work for you. The only way you fail in your twenties is by wasting precious time being idle and not trying. Not putting yourself out there. Not experiencing things. Not reaching out to friends. Not creating your life. We don’t get a practice life. Use your twenties to build your foundation. Even if it seems like it’ll crack, it won’t. It will all come together to work out for your benefit. Every mistake, wrong decision, and “failure” will be part of your triumph when you realize how it all played out for your own good. When you’re feeling lost you have to push yourself to keep going, keep seeking, keep trying. Even if you have zero clue where you’re going or what you’re doing. Give life your all even if you’re doing so blindly and it’ll return the favor.
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